Generation gap.

Generation gap

26/08/2020, Wednesday

Topic suggested by- K. Praveen Kumar

So, today i am going to tell about the most serious and confusing thing of life, "generation gap", this gap shows the difference of attitude at a situation from two different perspective, the best example of this is we and our parents. When we talk about or discuss something about life with our parents  there will always be a contradiction of choices.

Generations (according to west)

Firstly, I want to tell you about the different types of generations on which people are divided. Let's start from the history, World War 1 (1914-18) and Spanish flu (1918-20), then The great Economic depression (1929-33) and World War 2 (1939-1945). So, the people who were born between this period were called Silent generation. The reason why they were called silent is crystal clear, as they were raised during war, global depression and pandemic.

After the silent generation comes the baby boomers, as the war has ended so the rate of birth were very high after second world war, so this period was called the baby boomers. Then comes the Generation X , in simple words this was the time around which our grandparents were born, that time our country started its journey of development and it was the root time of new job opportunities, means the time, from where the job sector started growing. This generation was very hard working and lives a simple life.

Then comes the Generation y, this is the generation where most of our parents were born, and from the Y generation a massive growth of middle-class started in India. And at last Generation z, the youth of India. 

Our parents and us-

The thinking of the 21st century is totally different from the 20th century. This generation is connected to the world of Internet, which is the start of new era called the virtual era. The new generation is interested in exploring new things, and trying new things. 

But, the thinking of the Y generation is a little conservative, as they avoid taking risks and want a safe job where there is stability. And they used to compare grades as a way of success. They are correct at their point, as India have just completed 74 years of Independence, it's not a long time, our country just came out from poverty and everyone is working very hard for their family, and every parents expect that their child will do something in their life and live a happy life. Due to stability some parents not allow their child to pursue their interest and force them to prepare for engineering or government job.

In present time, majority of parents have changed their thinking with time,they are allowing their child to pursue their interest, but some portion of parents have still the same thinking.

Why gap in understanding?

I will tell about this from two point of views.(It's a general view) -

1) Parent view- According to parents, their children is not listening to them and doing something on his/her choice, or some says their child never studies and always waste time in playing, or some says my child never talks properly with me. Some says why my child is not getting good grades or percentage as i am paying these much fees for coaching and many problems. 

2) Children view- According to children, especially who are in their adolescence age generally face problems with their parents. They say, my parents don't understand me, they don't allow me to do this, my friends parents are very good they allow him/her to do whatever he /she want and never argue.  Some say my parents not support me in my passion, they say don't waste time and focus on your academics. 

★ The point of view from the parent and children side may vary for you. These are the general  view, i am not pointing finger on anyone as both are correct on their side.

The main problem is gap in communication, a gap have created between two generations, as there is no communication between them, due to which a conflict have created between old and new thoughts. 

 What can we do.

As we all know gap will be forever, so what can we do. As a parent we have to talk with our children about their issues,  discuss problem with them, don't force them to do what you want, allow them to choose what they want and support them. If they made any mistake don't make it an issue and try to solve with them in calm way, and don't discuss about your child's problem with relatives. Feed good values in child but never force them to walk o your thoughts and remember every child is unique and grade not matters for success.

As a child we have to understand that, we always have to respect our parents. Our parents have seen more world than us, and they will have more experience than us. We must try to understand that what our parents tell, is for our good only. Our parents may not understand fashion, social media etc., it doesn't means that they are old fashioned, it just says that they were not able to change with time. They not changed with time, it's not their problem because they have gave you a good life and all basic things which is necessary. So be thankful that you have parents who have gave you all necessary things. 

Never compare your parents with others, your parent may be strict and your friends parent may be not, you can't control that as you don't know from what situation that person had gone through because of which he is strict. And don't tell your parents to change, as they can't because they are at a certain age from where it's not possible. Be happy with your parents, if your parents not understand what your are doing, just explain them, as today the world have unlimited options of career, so just explain your career and discuss it with your parents. Never leave or forget your parents for someone else and respect them. Do something great in your life, so that your parents can proudly say that, this is my child.

-  " We can't fill the gap between generations,   we can just build a bridge of communication  to connect them."

         -T. Likhit Kumar